Monday, August 27, 2007

Manic Monday: Faith

I have never really blogged yet about how my husband and I met and eventually ended up getting married. I think it is a great story to share and I don't know why I haven't talked about it til fits in well with Faith. It took a lot of faith for both of us to get where we are today.

I had been divorced just under three years. I had been dating off and on, only one person seriously...but that had ended a little messily. My fault, not his. I had done some really dumb things in my new found freedom, but I was trying to get myself straightened out again and my life back to some kind of order.

I took a position at my church as Youth Director after much thought and prayer and things started to get better for me. My job situation got better. My living situation got better. Dating was still kind of bleh..... but I wasn't giving up just yet.

It is so hard to date when you are in your 30's. Specially if you aren't into the whole bar or club scene. I spent alot of time on the computer playing games and chatting. Dated a couple of people I met online but wasn't really serious about anyone. It was just before Christmas when I decided I was done with guys for awhile. I had just broken things off with a guy who turned out to be a psycho. I swear.... he even pulled the "I'm going to kill myself if you don't go out with me." bullshit. I called his bluff on that one and sent the cops to his apartment. Hee hee. I was just really really sick of all the stupid stuff.

Then, I was hanging out in an Arkansas Yahoo chat room and I met Brad. He and I just chatted a little and that was it. Christmas came and went, I moved and didn't have internet for a while. When I got it back up in early Jan. I ran across Brad's profile again. I said, "oh, what the heck" and sent him a message. We ended up chatting off and on for about a week. Decided to call each other on the phone....

Our phone calls ended up being 4 and 5 hour marathons. After about a week of that we decided to go on a date and meet in person.

We met on January 12, 2003. It took a lot of faith to meet in person someone you only chatted with online... you never knew what the person was REALLY going to be like until you saw them. He was exactly as he described himself and we got along great, started dating exclusively.

Brad asked me to marry him on Valentine's Day...yep, one month after we met. I said yes. That took a lot of faith.... believing that he was truly the right man after only knowing him a month.

We got married on April 1, 2003. Two months after he proposed. It was what you call a whirlwind romance. I think our friends and family thought we had lost our minds. They were kind of worried about us.

BUT.... we had faith that God had brought us together. We both had come through divorces and knew where we had gone wrong before, we knew what we REALLY wanted in a marriage. We talked about all those things before we got married. We talked about where we wanted to live, children, religion, working, money, dreams, goals....all those things.

It was meant to be, and I haven't regretted anything. Our lives have been one big adventure after another together. We have gotten married, moved across the country, quit our jobs and took over a business, had two children..... all within our first two years of marriage!

We have been married just over 4 years now and we are still as happy as ever. Everything isn't always perfect...that would be so boring! All the crazy stuff keeps life interesting and we have a lot of fun.

So, that is how we met and ended up getting married. Maybe next time I'll tell you how we took our honeymoon before the wedding.


ian said...

What a great love story. Seriously, you could dramatize that into a novel.


Jamie said...

You are so fortunate that it turned out so well.

Lee said...

Thanks Ian, I don't know how much I could stretch the story sounds so much better when told. I think it is a very romantic story..and a little unusual.

Jamie, Thanks for stopping by! We were very fortunate that things turned out well. I think that maturity/experience had a lot to do with it. We were very up front with each other about our expectitations and our shortcomings.
I look forward to reading your blog!

Lee said...

EXPECTATIONS....sheesh! I swear sometimes I am computer dyslexic.


sherryandkaty said...

Sounds a lot like me and Jason, only we met at work, not online. We were engaged within a month of starting dating, but I decided I wanted to wait to get married. We were married 14 months later. But in those early days, we'd sit on the phone until 2AM and both of us had to be at work by 7! I think you're right, the maturity we have by our 30's is so much more than when we were teenagers and knew it all lol. I wish we'd gotten married in the same place y'all did, maybe we'll renew our vows there for our 10th anniversary. Be married 6 years in January! YAY US! We finally got us a couple good guys!